For most of my adult life, I’ve kept epilepsy in my closet
like an ugly coat. I didn’t want to
cloak myself, so to speak, in what I used to see as a shameful disorder.
Of course, it’s far from that, though some others may react
in shameful ways when they hear about it.
I decided to step into the open about my condition a little over two
years ago, and, for the most part, the people I’ve told haven’t let me
down.

And I’m not unusual.
One out of one hundred people have epilepsy, but others don’t notice
anything different about most of them. Many of these high functioning
people with epilepsy aren’t telling those without epilepsy that they have the
condition. Instead, most of us who have
epilepsy that shows, either in frequent seizures, brain damage, or the visible disorders
that can go hand in hand with the condition appear to be “an epileptic.”
While these are among the strongest people whom I’ve ever met, others don't necessarily see them that way. It's not fair. They deserve the respect of all, and then more. Nonetheless, they don’t represent the majority. Seventy percent of people with epilepsy have
controlled their seizures with medications, VNSs, and/or RNSs. The one big reason that the perception
remains is that so many of us in this 70% don’t admit we have epilepsy. If we did, there would be little surprise
that someone others know well has our condition.
The question, then, is how to make us all feel comfortable
telling others. It’s kind of a chicken
and egg thing, unfortunately, but it’s our responsibility to take the first
step if we want others to accept us as we are.
We have everything to gain from being brave, choosing the right moment
to tell others, and making sure we’ve firmly established a positive relationship
with that person before we do.
If you’re now hiding your epilepsy, please remember that
it’s not shameful. You have so much
that’s wonderful in your life. And
you’ve had to overcome a challenge that 99 out of a hundred haven’t. So please take the next step. Make yourself a shining example of many of the people
with epilepsy.
*Note: I speak in generalities
about both people with and without epilepsy.
There are many people without epilepsy who fully accept that those of us
with it are no different than they. And
there are many of us with epilepsy who already are among the brave, speak out,
and make a difference in ending the stigma.
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